Is my mom crazy?

[Dr. Deezee]

I'm just going to repost something I posted on another board I frequent.

There's this thing called "my sanity." And I'm slowly losing it.

Everyday is awash with melodrama and hostility. One day, my mom (from now on known as Lisa) loves her new husband (from now on known as Jeff), and the next she can't stand him. They constantly fight, and for those of you who don't know the way my mom fights, it can be pretty brutal. She cuts you down, attacking you personally like no one else can because she's your mother (or in Jeff's case, husband). Not only that, but she screams in your face. Jeff is lucky, because he can fight back without fear of repercussions. I'm not so fortunate. I depend on her for my livelihood, so I just have to sit there and take it.

I'm always trying to win her favor, always trying to just be kind to her whenever possible so as not to incur her wrath. I've never really wanted anything more than to win her approval, which I've never gotten. Yesterday, I have to stay after school for debate. It turns out that we weren't really doing much in debate that day, so I decide to call my mom and tell her that she has the option of picking me up earlier, because I know she has a busy schedule. She rips into me over the phone, yelling about how busy she is and how she can't change her schedule at a whim to accommodate my "**** ups." I tell her she can still pick me up at 5:00 if that's easier, but she just screams more, ending with "I'LL GET YOU AT 4:30!" and slamming the phone down.

Okay. So I don't really understand what I did wrong, but, whatever. I get in the car and she immediately starts tearing into me. Telling me how worthless I am, how much I ****ed up her day, even blaming me for giving her a stomach flu. She speeds like crazy and even bottoms out the car, which she of course is irate at me for. I sit there and say pretty much nothing. I try to tell her that I was just trying to do her a favor, to which she angrily replies "I DON'T ****ING CARE WHAT YOU WERE TRYING TO DO!" She then starts in about how much work she has to do around the house and how I never lift a finger (which is bullcrap) and again, how worthless I am. She even says that "I DO ALL THE ****ING WORK AND YOU, YOU UNGRATEFUL ****, ALL YOU EVER WANT IS MONEY OR CLOTHES OR RIDES!" I ask her "What do you want me to do, quit debate?" She responds "**** YOU!" I hardly ever ask for money (my sister asks for it all the times) and the only times I ever get clothes is when she sporadically buys them for me.

All I could think about was that just the other day, she had been telling me how lucky she was to have a son like me and how proud she was of me.

She keeps yelling "WHEN YOU TELL ME 5:00, THAT'S IT! I DON'T ****ING CARE IF YOU HAVE TO SIT THERE FOR TEN HOURS! WHEN YOU SAY 5:00 THAT'S IT!" I finally shout "OOOKAAAAY!!" to which she replies she wants to beat my face in. The rest of the car ride (and for much of the day after we get home) she's constantly muttering "****ing son of a *****" under her breath.

Yes, I cried. I hated her right then, just like I always hate her after one of these episodes. So, I clean my room (which takes all of 10 minutes to do because it's not really that dirty) and I lie in my bed for a while. I tell myself how I'm never going to forgive her for these years I've lived under her roof. I tell myself how much I hate her and all I can think about is how mad I am. I think of how unfair it is of her to vent all her crap on me. I never vent my crap on her. Worse still, she hears me sobbing and teases me for it.

I've heard her sobbing about her problems plenty of times before. I never tease her for it. I'm not that childish.

This kind of crap happens all the time. I can't concentrate at school, and I certainly can't concentrate on writing.

And don't even get me started on my sister.

Being absorbed in my melodramay-angsty mood, I forgot the best part of all.

I have to stay after school today again until 9 PM (we're hosting districts for debate here at my school so I'm helping out), and this morning before I left my mom said (in a completely non-sarcastic, sincere way) that "if you get finished early, feel free to call me for a ride."

After pounding it into my skull that once I tell her a time to pick me up, that's it.

I think it's easy to see why I'm losing my sanity - and motivation to write.

[Stumanji]

She's not crazy... you're just a very "hate-able" guy. ;)

[Dr. Deezee]

I'm weeping on the inside.

Well, actually, I'm weeping on the outside but you can't see it, since, you know, you're not in the room and stuff. >_>

[DiscoDave]

I would suggest talking to your school counseller about this. These types of situations can really screw a person up, and I'm pretty sure you don't want to give her the satisfaction of negatively effecting who you find yourself to be in 30 years.

[RawKus]

by your story i'd say yes your mom is crazy, but teenagers (including myself) tend to stretch things a bit and use them to make us look like the victim. So ya never know.

[M4LFUNCT10N]

I would also suggest talking to a counselor at school. It may sound weird, but it would probably be a good thing. Having someone that you can talk to about personal stuff is a necessity. Getting it off your chest on a regular basis in a secure and safe place, in a positive manner will help you to cope with it and not to become bitter. Sounds like you are taking the right actions as far as "re"-actions go. Sucks that you have to go through that. But I'm sure one day she'll realize what she is doing and try to fix things. When that day comes, don't shut her out. It sounds like she doesn't know what she's doing. I would be more that willing to bet that she went through something similar in her childhood and that she has a twisted view of parenting. Some parents will do things like this on purpose to force their child to grow up a certain way. Misguided parenting.

[ghrogels]

wut hs do you goto?

my mom used to be like this, but not nearly as bad as you're descibing. going and talking with your consuler will help the administration and teachers understand where you're coming from when/if you slip up, also, as stated before, getting it off your chest really does help alot

by your story i'd say yes your mom is crazy, but teenagers (including myself) tend to stretch things a bit and use them to make us look like the victim. So ya never know.

i'd say dude-teens tend to not stretch the truth THAT much, but they do tend to have a very narrow perspective on life (this story is probably missing some detail about their current situation).

while the chicks do exactly the opposite

[M4LFUNCT10N]

Originally posted by ghrog

going and talking with your consuler will help the administration and teachers understand where you're coming from when/if you slip up, also, as stated before, getting it off your chest really does help alot


I definately agree here. Stuff going on at home usually affects schoolwork. If you start having problems in that area, and they already know there are problems at home, they will work with you to see that your grades don't drop. A fried of mine in HS accidentally rear ended a car and killed the driver(older lady). He let his counselor know right away what was going on. He started getting depressed and it affected his school work. Because he let them know at the beginning, they were able to work out a ton of stuff. That included giving him extensions for lots of schoolwork that he decided he wasn't fit to do at the time. I'm not saying that you need to talk to them to get extensions and stuff. But if it does get that far, they will already be aware of the situation and they will be more than willing to help.

[PyroInsane]

God damn, Im suprised you havent slapped her in the face yet!

Well, as said before, you should talk to your school counselor about this, your mom's behavior is completly out of control. She should go see a shrink too.

:hug:

I feel for ya man, my dad used to be the same way, until i eventually got enough guts to stand up to him, now we are ok, but he's still a childish jerk alot too.

[SuperDude]

mood swings, that sucks. talk to a councilor and get that shit straightened up.

[PyroInsane]

Its more then likely alot more then mood swings. It looks like some severe anger displacement, perhaps even something to do with a mid life crisis? Menopause perhaps?

[Catsohori]

:burst: Dude!, you should get help, but, shes not as scary as my mom when shes mad:eek:

[TheBANDIT]

sad story, no parent should talk to a kid that way. If thats all true than thats a form of abuse. I would talk to someone at your school or something.

[PyroInsane]

Poor poor Dr.SneeZeey

[Dr. Deezee]

I criez on the inside.

Yeah, it's a good thing that my room is downstairs, and uh, she's upstairs. >_>